Jana Hocking: I Had The Greatest Casual Sex Of My Life Until I Break The Golden Rule ‘You Benefit’

Let’s face it, winter brings not only morning frosts but long cold nights that are best wrapped around a man’s legs.

I found myself losing all motivation to venture any time after 6 p.m. in the colder months, so I went and did what any woman lucky enough to have a high sex drive would do: I got myself an FWB aka “benefit friend”.

Well, like half of the geeky posts I get on my weekly Saucy Secrets Instagram, I also enjoy the naked company of someone I have little interest in being a boyfriend.

He first met me at a bar in Bondi and we had some outrageous flirty jokes before sharing the Instagram account. I hate to sound terribly cliché but he’s really tall, dark, and handsome.

He has a heavy French accent that is often difficult to understand and the arrangement is purely on a superficial level as he will soon return to a foreign country. You must fall in love with a handsome traveler.

Now, what made this FWB situation successful were several key factors: We didn’t stay up all night sharing thoughts and feelings. In fact, he didn’t even go back to sleep.

We’ve never even dated but when he went through my direct messages a few hours after we met, I thought, “Why not?”

To be completely transparent, I bounced back from a breakup and he turned out to be the perfect distraction. He won’t mind when I say it, because he’s also happy to keep it casual.

One of us would just text the other to see if they were home, and if they were, we’d meet for a while in the nude.

This could come late on a Saturday night or right after business on a Tuesday. It’s simply when the mood hits. And honestly, its fragmentary nature is what makes it fun.