Tori, 34, says:
It was my birthday recently and I saw something pop up about Blind Date while scrolling that night and I thought to myself, why not give this a go and see what happens? I haven’t been out on a date in a year, so to jump into a blind date was super nerve-wracking. It was a huge thing for me to do, coming out of my comfort zone in this way.
I think my date was quite nervous. He was about 15 minutes late as he was struggling to find parking so when he arrived he was a little flustered.
I don’t think Pieter was my type. He was a nice guy but honestly, I am not entirely sure what we matched on because I really struggled to find anything in common. I tried to get to the bottom of it during the date but couldn’t.
We spoke a lot about Pieter’s work, which I get because it’s kind of a safe and easy topic for a first date. I was struggling a bit with the conversation. I am a very easy person to chat to, and I can keep people very engaged. I do it for a living but it was quite hard. I would ask questions but I felt very much that he wasn’t asking me a lot.
I tried to drop little things into conversation with him to see what would strike a chord, like the fact I still have all my DVDs and VHS or that I’m really into Star Wars, and nothing.
So then I would bring up something else I was interested in, and nothing. I tried to talk about my kids or what I did for work but just found there wasn’t any follow-up questions so the conversation stalled. I have never really encountered that before.
I felt kind of awkward at the end because there was very clearly no romantic spark and I wasn’t sure how to end it but we were both going in different directions so I just said “it was nice to meet you” and “bye”. I might have been a bit abrupt or he might have thought it was a bit weird but I just wasn’t sure what to do. I think he was nervous, and I was nervous too, and we just weren’t a match.
Pieter, 47, says:
I had some trouble finding the place — I was looking around for the sign but couldn’t see anything, so that was fun. I ended up eventually getting there though.
My first impression of Tori was that she seemed bubbly and friendly. I ended up getting my hair cut for this date. I’ve had long hair for years now and always felt a little condemned for it — to which I reply “at least I have hair at 47” but anyway, I felt pretty fresh for the date.
We chatted about what we did for jobs and we were just trying to find the link between the two of us. We spoke a little about animals and I was giving her some recommendations on who could build her catio (a cat patio), just general chit-chat.
I was recommended to apply by a friend of mine. When I’m back from work we usually catch up and I guess she must have taken pity on me for not having much of a dating life so she suggested this.
I do find it difficult when it comes to dating as I am FIFO and I find when I mention that in conversation it tends to be a bit of a dampener — I don’t think a lot of women are really interested in dating someone who does FIFO, which is particularly hard because I really enjoy what I do for work and it has been a great opportunity. I’m not too much into swiping left and right — I’d prefer to meet people in real life.
I’m glad I gave it a crack and did something different. I don’t think there was any romance between us but she was a very lovely person and good company for the evening. I don’t think either of us struggled with the conversation and it wasn’t awkward or anything, I just don’t think there was a spark.
Once we had finished up at the restaurant, we were both heading in opposite directions and I offered to walk her to the train station but she said that was OK. We didn’t end up exchanging numbers.
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