Disclosure: Thanks to aerie and ShopStyle for sponsoring today’s post. All products have been selected, worn and my favorites!
Down to Earth Crew Austria [TTS, wearing in M] // OFFLINE Xtra Fighting! Tight pants [TTS, wearing in L]
The cozy season is upon our friends – and so is the holiday shopping season. Hosted a few family birthdays in December, gift collection, company party, fundraiser gala, all activities to make the holiday memorable for my kids, baked everything , partying with friends…. the list goes on and on! If I’m not careful, my favorite season can quickly turn into a vicious cycle of feeling like I have a million things on my shoulders > making moves to knock things off the list. my book > blame myself for not slowing down and cherishing every moment [any fellow enneagram 1’s out there feel me?] > feels like I’m falling behind because it’s taking so long to instill it > and so on! Sound familiar?
For the past few years, I’ve been on a mission to stop this cycle. I realized that even though I’ve accomplished a LOT, I don’t feel like I’m living my life- and it’s time for a change! I find myself really present in the moment and thoroughly enjoying what I’m doing – whether it’s enjoyable work or productive work, I’m embracing it.
WoodJane Flannel [TTS, wearing in M] // OFFLINE Xtra Fighting! Tight pants [TTS, wearing in L]
So what’s the secret to enjoying a busy holiday season and enjoying every moment? Well – I can’t say I have a panacea, but I can share what works for me and hope that some of the things on this list work for you too!
How to avoid holiday burnout
- Accept that YOU don’t have to do it all! // For some this may mean cutting back on what is being done to simplify. For me, that means not volunteering for every need that arises during the holiday season. Yes, I love baking cookies. Yes, I love volunteering my time in my child’s classroom and ringing the bell to raise money for a great cause. Yes – other people love doing this too!
When I volunteer for EVERY opportunity, I don’t just add more than I can fun handle, I’m taking that opportunity away from someone else who also likes those things. Give away your time if you like it, but don’t give away all your time!
- Share the burden! // Why is it my responsibility to buy every gift that “we” gave during the holidays? I have no idea! Here’s what I know – my husband really loves finding and giving gifts to the people he loves. When I felt like I had to search, buy, and wrap every gift we were going to give during the season, I took that opportunity from him and left myself feeling overwhelmed.
While I still do most of the shopping (I work for LIY – seeing products online every day is a dangerous business), we divide and conquer – and we both love it. than! Our new process is usually to think about what we want to get, split the list a bit, and schedule shopping together for the things we want to buy in person. When it’s time to pack – we wait until the kids go to bed, turn on a holiday movie, grab some cocoa and our wrapping supplies, and get to work together. We’re building two days simply so we have time to connect during the busy season and less time for me to handle alone.
- Don’t forget to take care of yourself! // We can be so focused on what we are doing for others that we forget nothing to pour out of an empty cup. What helps you relax and feel cared for?
For me, it’s the consistent simple things rather than the big things (like scheduling regular massages, though you can certainly do that too!). While my kids brush their teeth, I go to the bathroom to wash my face (otherwise I would wake up in yesterday’s makeup for at least 5/7 days!). I carry a giant water bottle so I don’t forget to drink. I make time to read a book before bed to relax, but I can’t do that if I don’t go to bed before I’m exhausted. I spend 15 minutes on my nails every week because I feel more comfortable doing my nails and it takes less time than going to the nail salon. I sip a cup of seasonal tea in the evening. Honestly, this can look like anything you want – don’t forget YOU! Just like our relationships with others – our relationship with ourselves can suffer if we forget to prioritize it. The little things you do for yourself can go a long way.
- A clean space equals a clear mind // I don’t recommend trying to keep your house organized at all – you live there! However, I know that I personally can struggle a lot when my space is cluttered. It feels like just another thing on my already full plate when I look around and see the mess.
So how do you keep a space clean without feeling like another overwhelming task? I set a timer for 15 minutes every night and go to work! Some days, an entire 15 minutes is spent cleaning up the mess and finishing the leftovers from dinner because we have to run to an activity right after we finish eating. Other days, 15 minutes spent cleaning out drawers have bothered me, my car, or my wallet. Always, 15 minutes makes me feel lighter, fulfilled and ready to relax for the evening!
- Simplify your shopping! // Find a store that offers gifts for many of the people on your list and the items you need this season, with one easy checkout. I’m looking at you aerie! aerie has lots of great gifts for everyone on your list – teens, teens, girlfriends, your book club, any warm lover in your life! Plus – through Wednesday, 11/23, Sweatshirts & Leggings are 40% off + 30% off the Collection!
I’ve rounded up some of my favorite fashion items and stocked up on stuffing to get you started on holiday shopping right away. But first – we need to talk about this dress. It can be the perfect little gift to give yourself and also save time shopping for that holiday party’s fit later! It’s made from some of the softest, warmest fabrics and is my go-to style for holiday parties. You won’t get cold, won’t get uncomfortable and won’t regret wearing it after dinner because it’s just enough to flatter your curves without revealing any evidence of your last meal.
Buttercream wool dress [Size down if between, wearing in M]
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More good holiday gifts from aerie
As our CEO, Steph is solely responsible for any structure that exists at LIY. Between communicating with our amazing brand partners, organizing blog content, managing teams, Steph loves organization *almost* as much as she makes the latest cookie recipe she comes up with. from the beginning. Give her a puzzle to put together, a candle to burn, and new green branches sprouting from her garden, and you’ve just explained a perfect day in Steph’s world.